New Zealand cleric Dr. Mohammad Anwar Sahib Al-Madani said in an address at the Wellington Mosque in Wellington, NZ that women who do not provide their husbands with their rights will not enter Paradise. He explained that a woman must obey her husband's call to intimacy even if she is on top of a camel or if she is cooking something in an oven, and that any wife who refuses intimacy without reason will be cursed until morning by angels.
He emphatically stated that men have the "upper hand" over women, and that this is the fixed nature of things. In addition, Al-Madani said that women cannot spend their husband's money – nor their own money if they have it – without consulting and getting permission from their husbands, because their husband is the "boss of the house." He further criticized women who are "sweaty" and "smelly", saying: "You expected your husband to be good with you?"
Al-Madani added that there is a hadith that says that a woman will not fulfill all of her husband's rights even if she licked pus off of his body. The video was uploaded to the Internet on August 22, 2014. Dr. Al-Madani is the imam of Masjid At-Taqwa in Auckland, NZ. He is the President of the Federation of Muslim Scholars of New Zealand and the Head of the Islamic Studies Department at the Islamic Online University. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies and a PhD in Quranic Sciences from the Islamic University of Madinah.
Dr. Mohammad Anwar Sahib Al-Madani: "No woman will make it to Paradise until she gives the rights of her husband. Even if he invites her for consummation of [their] intimate relationship, even if she is on top of... or cooking in the oven, in another hadith, if she is on top of a camel, she has to go and answer him. And here... [she says:] 'who [do you think] you are, man? I have my rights, I don't feel [like] it, that's it. Who [do you think] you are? Try me and you will see what happens.' [And the] husband goes turning into another room. And she thinks she is going to go to Paradise because of this.
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"The Prophet Muhammad said that any woman who refuses her husband without any reason... the angels curse her until morning – until she comes and makes her husband get pleased.
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"When Allah said that men have authority over women... Men, in simple language, have 'qawama,' which has many meanings – the have the upper hand on women! [Show me] one verse that says women have the upper hand over men. No, it cannot be it is mother nature.
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"The Prophet Muhammad does not allow – which means this is Islam – for the woman to spend the earnings of her husband without his permission.
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"Also there are reliable hadiths that if a woman has her own wealth, she is not allowed to spend it without the permission – without discussion – from the husband. Now this might go easily to women, but this is what the Prophet said.
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"If this indicates anything, then it does show the kind of respect a woman should hold for husband.
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"Some scholars – I won't say so-called scholars, many are scholars... When they go to the Western world and start to defend... 'Rights of women in Islam.' 'Rights of wives in Islam.' [They say:] 'They gave the full right to do this and that.' They make it so big [and say]: 'The woman this and the woman that...' And you know what happens with that? They forget the true essence [of Islam]. If it is so much like what you are promoting, then why is this hadith here? Why?
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"There has to be an element of control. There has to be an element of responsibility and answering to others. I never [get asked by] my wife and say: 'No, don't spend this.' No, I never do those things. Never! But the thing is that she knows that I am the boss of the house – that if I say no, it is no. She may come and discuss with you, there is nothing wrong with that. But the moment she starts to feel: 'I am the one with the money and I can do whatever I want...' This is the starting point of which things are forward [sic].
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"And yes, a woman is not allowed to talk to any stranger for no reason. This is not being extreme.
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"The beautiful clothes which you bought for 700-800 dollars on Eid Al-Fitr – you saw it when she went to eat sewai and all of those dishes. After that you never saw it, but her girlfriends and others have been looking at it every time. Because... You bought it for enjoyment, but unfortunately, it is for other people's eyes. This is what the problem is. Then she is all sweaty, all smelly. If [your husband] gets near you, he gets suffocated because you are not even ready for him. And you smell of onions, you smell of garlic, you smell of everything... The entire house is also smelly. And if you are wearing clothes which may be of cotton, the smell goes inside even deeper. With the winter clothes, it is even worse. What is this? You expect your husband to be good with you?
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"The Prophet Muhammad said: If your husband has pus from the head to the foot, and if a woman goes and licks it... This hadith is reliable. You [still] will not have fulfilled the rights of your husband."