Palestinian Life Coach Nadeem Abu Khalaf: Women Talk More Than Men Because They Have More Language Centers in Their Brains

Nadeem Abu Khalaf, head of the Experts Center for Human and Skills Development and representative in Palestine of the International NLP Trainers Association, said that women have six language centers in their brains, as opposed to men, who, he claimed, have only one language center. Furthermore, according to Abu Khalaf, "the mind of a man works 'step by step,' but a woman’s mind operates 'like a snail' and multitasks." Speaking on Al-Quds TV on July 20, Abu Khalaf was attempting to give tips on how to resolve marital disputes.

Nadeem Abu Khalaf: "Women have four... no, six... They have six language centers [in the brain]. When they speak, women activate six language centers. Men, on the other hand, have only one language center. On average, women speak 20,000-40,000 words daily, whereas men speak only 7,000-14,000 words a day, on average. When I discuss some problem with my wife, I hardly say five words, and she's already said 30. Right, right... She's already said 30 words. If she only realized that she has more language centers than me, she would accept it. That's one thing. The second thing is that her mind is spiral, while mine is straight. The mind of a man works 'step by step,' but a woman's mind operates like a snail. She thinks and does several things simultaneously.

"What does this mean? When I get home from work, I need 5 to 15 minutes to move from step 1 to step 2. But when I enter, she is at the laundry step, the problem-her-son-caused-her step, the chores-of-the-day step, tonight's-wedding step, and the chores-of-the-day-after-tomorrow step... All these are mixed together, and she expects me to deal with them on the spot. But I can't. It's unfair. I prefer to be by myself. If she doesn't understand that a man works step by step, and if I don't understand that she can multitask, I won't be able to manage any dispute. She goes into details, while I cut it short. The man's brain makes things concise."

Interviewer: "The woman should also understand that the man thinks in the way you explained, and that he can only understand one thing at a time. She should break it down into pieces, so that the problem will come to an end."

Nadeem Abu Khalaf: "Our understanding of these marital disputes is the key to the solution. There is a third difference too. In order to resolve any problem, the man needs to be by himself. He needs to sit alone to think and to resolve it. The woman, on the other hand, requires a group. Some 7,000 nerve cells are at work in a woman's brain when there's a problem. This doesn't happen with men. That's why the woman starts talking to her father, to her mother, to anyone. With men, it doesn't work like that. When there's a problem, the man needs to be alone, to watch TV, to read the paper, to grab a pen and a piece of paper and plan how to solve the problem."